Myths about stress
To understand stress, it is important to know what is true and what isn’t.
I shouldn’t get stressed – it means I’m weak and useless
It is common to think that the only ones who get stressed are those that are weak and not good enough. However, different people have different appraisals of an event, and different coping skills depending on the type of event. So an event that may not be stressful for you may be stressful for someone else, while an event stressful for you may be not stressful for others. Everyone gets stressed, just in different events!
Everyone else can cope – there must be something wrong with me if I can’t
It only looks like everyone else can cope. Like you, they are struggling to look okay and hiding how they are feeling. Since we all tend to do this, it is not surprising that we think that other people are doing so much better than we are.
Life is just stressful and there’s nothing you can do about it anyway
It may be true that life can be stressful, but it doesn’t mean there is nothing you can do about it. Sometimes this means doing things that change the event, or finding ways to feel better – hopefully through this program.